ETIQUETTE AND SCREENING
If you are experienced, you scroll through the topics and read what you want to, or just skip to the appointment request form. My booking agent, Daphne, will complete the screening and booking for us.
If you're kind of new, please read this page completely before filling out the
appointment request form. You'll learn how to protect yourself, make wise investments, and how to open doors with more selective providers.
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ARE YOU MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICE?
First, I'm going to tell you how you can tell I am a safe and wise investment, then I will explain how I'll know you are safe, too.
ADS, REVIEWS AND SCREENING:
These sites are well-known sites that can be used for finding a provider, checking reviews and/or screening:
TER and PD
These are are review sites: TER was gone for two years. Now that it's back, it's probably the most-used and best know review site. While TER was gone, PD gained a lot of popularity, and even now that TER is back, PD might be more popular.
When you click on the PD and TER links above, you'll go to my page of reviews. From there you can read the reviews, or click on the reviewer to see if he has written many reviews or just a few, which can indicate his level of expertise. You can also see if he gives average, below, or above average scores by looking at the other reviews the ladies have. To verify that the reviews are legit, on TER ladies can "whitelist" the reviewer. You'll find whitelistings at the bottom of the reviewers page of reviews. On PD ladies reply to the reviews to confirm they are real. Ladies who have at least 10-20 good reviews from reviewers who have written several reviews for other ladies should be pretty safe to see.
You CAN'T ask about lewd or sexual acts. That's a big no-no. By doing your research, you won't need to.
Both PD and TER have a search feature so you can enter important criteria like city, age of provider, hair color, review parameters, etc. to find the right providers for you.
ECCIE is another review site popular in southern states, but I don't really use that.
TNA Board is popular in northern California, and surrounding areas. I'm not very familiar with them either.
Many clients think that "Eros Verified" means that providers are legit. No, it doesn't mean that. If the provider is "verified" on Eros, that means the provider sent in a selfie with a sign that says EROS and the date and they look like the person in the photos. Which is great thing to know, but it doesn't mean they are good providers or even that they are providers at all, really. It doesn't mean the person in the photo is the person you will see. ALWAYS CHECK REVIEWS.
P411 is the best screening site. The clients and providers with the best reputations will be found here. But it costs money, I think about 180 per year.
I think you need to have at least two referrals from verified providers to become a member. All providers have at least 2 verified reviews from verified reviewers. But sometimes their sign up requirements change.
If any lady has a complaint about bad behavior, like charging more than what's advertised or not looking like her photos, she won't be allowed on the site. Likewise, if a gentleman doesn't pay as agreed, is a no show too many times, etc. he also won't be allowed. So that's why the clients and providers are preferred.
TRY THIS TRICK:
Try googling your provider's email address, phone number, or stage name to see what she has to show she's legit. Try searching mine, Freya Fantasia, or 6194085496. You should see several ads pop up. Some ladies want to be "under the radar", and you won't find a bunch or ads, but she really needs to have reviews somewhere, or just see someone else! There are so many to choose from. Don't get too obsessed with someone with no reviews. Avoid common problems like:
-The lady doesn't look like her photos anymore.
-The lady is not the model in the pictures at all.
-Upselling, You are asked to pay more money for what you assumed was included.
-Total rob/rip off by the lady or someone she works with.
If it seems to good to be true, it probably is! Oh, and since most providers know that it's illegal to sell lewd or sexual acts for money, if they openly claim to do this, beware. It could be a trap.
Both PD and TER have search functions so you can enter criteria important to you like age range, rates, ratings, and more.
I have screenshots of real reviews here on my website and links to my reviews on the different sites.
WHAT KIND OF PROVIDER DO YOU WANT?
Think about how you would feel if your mom, sister, daughter, or another woman you care about decided to work as an erotic model and meet privately with strangers. Wouldn't you want her to make every effort to be safe? And, what do YOU want? Do you want to be with a professional model who has standards and takes care of herself? If so, then we might be a good match. If proving to me that you are a gentleman and safe to see is too much of a hassle for you, then please go someplace else.
* I have no age or racial preferences!
Some newbies make the mistake of thinking that because they are good-looking, I should want to see them, or maybe they think I won't want to see them if they aren't. Let me assure you that what I find attractive in a man is reliability, respectability, and good hygiene. I have no age or racial preferences (except I won't see 18-20 year olds, must be 21 or over). When you meet me, you will know this is TRUE. I LOVE my clients, and this will be obvious to you. Of course my reviews reflect this, too. But I'm picky about who I see. It's because I am very selective that I love my job so much.
Common newbie mistakes:
-Asking about lewd or sexual acts-IT IS ILLEGAL TO EXCHANGE LEWD OR SEXUAL ACTS FOR MONEY.
-Over communicating between appointments. Really only setting up the appointment details should be discussed before or between meetings. Everything else should be during a face to face conversation.
-Haggling over rates. (I will NEVER agree to pay that lower amount)!
-Not respecting boundaries (having to be told "no" about ANYTHING more than once. This includes during the screening and booking process).
-Arriving late (more than 15 minutes).
-Staying too long after time is up. It's okay to chat while you're getting ready, but stay focused on getting ready.
-Trying to keep the meeting going after the time is up.
-Canceling late or not showing up at all. (See cancellation policy)
-Disrespectful or rough conduct.
*NEVER BE ROUGH, RUDE, OR SCARY!
*Don't work the lady hard for every minute! That's not respectful. I love to have fun, but when it becomes selfish, it's not fun anymore. Most meetings are equal parts physical and emotional gratification, like a real date, if you know what I mean.
If I interpret any of your behavior as disrespectful or threatening, I will end the session and keep the money.
If you want to try something you've seen that could be interpreted as rough or disrespectful, you NEED TO HAVE A CONVERSATION ABOUT THAT (face to face, not during screening and booking). Try saying, "Is it okay if I ...."? Followed by, "Please let me know if anything is ever too much". You'll let me know that you know the difference between normal and beyond normal and that you don't presume I will allow beyond normal activities. .
This doesn't mean we can't have a lively time together either. I'm talking about activities that most people would consider putting a stop to.
Notice that I put this under "less common". By far, most of my clients, both experienced and brand new, don't need this advice at all.
How should you start?:
-Never mention anything illegal or sexual.
As soon as you do that I will tell you you have to go someplace else.
-*Complete my appointment request form.
I probably receive 10 requests for every 1 person I meet with. I don't waste much time during the screening and booking process. If you are somebody I want to meet, will you just keep in mind that you're a big minority, and try to understand why I'm so matter-of-fact during this part of it?
If you'd like to be among the top 10 % with me and other providers:
-DON'T JUST SAY:
I want to see you
I normally don't even reply to messages like that. Be mature and tell me or the provider the following without being prompted:
-Which city you want to meet in (Many travel and need this clarification).
-What you want (nothing sexual).
-Which day/s and time/s you want to meet
-How long of a session you want.
-Will be in call or out call?
-If you have references from other providers.
Example: Hi Freya, This is Johnny Walker. I saw your ad on Private Delights and I'd like to know if we can meet for lunch plus 2 hours when you're in DC. Almost any weekday will work for me. I have references if you need them.
Usually when someone doesn't specifically say, they want an in call meeting. Pretty much everything else should be discussed face to face. I have learned that serious clients tend to do these things. EVEN THE NEWBIES. Red flags result in no meeting.
Please complete the appointment request form when you're ready.
I accept the following for screening:
1. A p411 account with at least two okays, ie referrals (my favorite).
2. 2 or more whitelistings on TER.
3. 2 or more verified reviews on PD (Private Delights).
4. Provide me with 2 references from other providers/models. Give me the names of and contact information for models you've seen before. They must have 20 reviews or more somewhere or one year and/or 10 okays or more on p411. We can check that for you.
5. If you don't have a reference, you'll need to:
-Completely read this page.
-Send a copy of your ID.
-Send a selfie with something specific on it (instructions later).
-Pay a deposit in the amount of 100 for each hour you want to meet (instructions later).
-I will only be able to see you at my in call location.
-My place (IN CALL):
Four out of five guys are fine. Because 1/5 of my clients don't smell fresh, I will ask everyone to shower again upon arrival. Too many times (so many times) someone's complained, "Really? I just showered"... so we skipped it, and it wasn't okay. So now I ask everyone to shower every time. I have a hand held shower head so it's easy and quick to use a GOOD AMOUNT of SOAP (a big handful) AND WATER, on the COCK, the PUBIC AREA above the cock, the BALLS, and the BUTT.
If you don't wear deodorant then please wash your armpits also and apply deodorant at my house after your shower. I'm not just being a prude. If my long hair gets in your body odor, then my next client will smell that on me. And that could effect their fun time, and their opinion of me and my professionalism. I'm not willing to do that. I WILL ask you to get back in the shower and wash WITH SOAP, and please wear deoderant.
-Your place (OUT CALL) :
Please shower right before our meeting, using a good amount of SOAP on your cock, balls, pubic area above your cock, butt, and underarms. Use deodorant.
I promise I will always be fresh from the shower. In the hotels I have a quick and easy way of washing and rinsing that won't take up much of your time.
Lay the money down in an obvious place when you first come in. It's okay to make sure I see it. Even if you'be been here many times, I want to get it at the BEGINNING. I was ripped off by someone I'd seen a couple of times when I didn't get the money first. I will count it. Please don't make me ask for it. I read on one of the boards that some guys think that's rude, that it's too business-like. Well, this IS my business. And maybe some people haven't been ripped off by someone they trusted. It's also part of my routine. When I don't get it first, we can both forget.
I hope my website has helped you have a better understanding of how things work. Now that TER is back, please take advantage of their many discussion boards to learn more, inclulding a newbie's board, a legal board, local boards, meet and greets around the country, a humor board, a senior board, and more.
NOT A MATCH?
If you are a newbie, and we are not a good match at this time, please don't take it personally. Instead of just ignoring newbies, I'm trying to explain how things work. I hope you will try to learn from my website, begin to verify models by reading reviews, have fun safely, and come back to see me once you have gained some experience and references.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read through my etiquette and screening page. If you still have any questions, please don't hesitate to ask.
My favorite kind of man is experienced in the hobby, polite, and respectful!